“Consider any significant decision you’ve ever taken that you subsequently came to regret: a relationship you entered despite being dimly aware that it wasn’t for you, or a job you accepted even though, looking back, it’s clear that it was mismatched to your interests or abilities. If it felt like a difficult decision at the time, then it’s likely that, prior to taking it, you felt the gut-knotting ache of uncertainty; afterwards, having made a decision, did those feelings subside? If so, this points to the troubling possibility that your primary motivation in taking the decision wasn’t any rational consideration of its rightness for you, but simply the urgent need to get rid of your feelings of uncertainty.”
I’m hardly a scientist so I don’t mind writing a bit of speculative nonsense here. I find myself reading a ton of advice on wordpress, maybe you can relate. And there are an unbelievable number of posts about being happy, not letting any negative thoughts invade your mind, and the power of positive thinking (a couple nice take-downs here and here). Uncertainty and fear and doubt and worry seem to really scare people. Maybe for good reasons. Those things can be dangerous but they also can be necessary and, in the end, improve things. I don’t know why we’re so scared. I’m writing a short post about it so I’ll leave it here for now.